A Member of the Happy Wives Club

So last week we were all treated to this story of a website that allows/encourages inter-marital affairs. The story said that of all the cities in the Twin Cities area, Woodbury was number one for visitors.

Of course, they didn't really claim how they measure that. (And I'm not visiting the site to find out if they take your zip code, phone number or what.)

In subsequent comments, Patchers weren't too surprised by this stat for Woodbury.

Well, heck, I'll say it.

I am surprised.

Perhaps I'm "glass half full" or I only see what's best in people. Or maybe it's because I work from home so I really don't get out that much. You can't "tell" when someone is having an affair. So I guess my neighbors could all be swingers, but I'm usually in bed before 10 p.m., so I'll never know.

As an alternative, I am a member of the Happy Wives Club. Yep. It exists.

I've been married for nine years (just celebrated this past weekend — whoot!) and together with him for 17 years (since we were 18, you do the math on our age).

The Happy Wives Club exists for women who instead of whining and complaining about their marriages — want to talk about the positive things. Their tagline is "For those who believe love rocks."

Yes, I believe love rocks. And I believe in staying with one person until one of us passes. I don't believe in the cliche: the grass is greener on the other side, because let's face it, its usually not.

But I don't dole out marriage advice. For one thing, its different for everybody. All I say to you is before you even consider an affair, take a look at these resources in addition to the Happy Wives Club. I hope you can become a member soon.

Project Happily Ever After - also a book by the same name. This lady went through it all to save her marriage. A great resource.

Be More with Less - not necessarily a "marriage blog" per se, but a great resource about how to accept your life could be great with less.

Simple Marriage - with Dr. Corey Allen. Dr. Allen also has a podcast called "Sexy Marriage Radio" available on iTunes. He runs classes and has at-home tutorials you can do with your spouse.

Your Courageous Life - Kate is courageous and a life coach. Many of the things I've read to work on your marriage means you need to work on yourself FIRST. Kate can help you.