Absolutely appalled at the lack of respect and empathy of couple at the movie theater.

I am a mother to a one year old, a very well behaved one year old I should add. Tonight I went to see a movie with my son and my brother, my son was excited and enjoying himself it's been so cold lately we haven't been out and about much. When he would get upset or whiny I would quietly remove myself from the theater. A couple who was sitting next to us then decided to make it their goal to make sure the man at the concession stand knew how upset they were that there was a small child in the movie they had just seen. They asked if management allows children to be in movies and why they allow that. I was sitting on a bench right next to them putting my sons coat and hat on while I heard all the nasty things she said. When she turned around I told her she should have spoken to me about it rather than complaining to someone who has no ability to change anything that happened (the movie was over already), she told me I was an irresponsible mother for taking my child to a movie and that I should stay home or have my "baby daddy" watch my child. My husband is in Afghanistan, serving our country and protecting inconsiderate people like this woman who have no idea what it is like in my situation, I said to her that my husband was in a combat zone in Afghanistan and she said she didn't care where my husband was.
Her husband added in that I should just watch Netflix.
I've never been so hurt by the words of a stranger who have no consideration for a young mother. Her analogy was that I should stay in and hide my face from the world since I am a mother to a young child.
Susan December 31, 2013 at 01:53 PM
There are always two sides to every story. Obviously these folks were upset about something, was this child in an R rated movie? If so I could understand why that could upset them. There seems to be some facts missing which raises some questions as to what started all this.
Willow December 31, 2013 at 02:02 PM
Those people must not have kids of their own, otherwise they'd understand. I'm sorry your night out was tarnished by this unpleasant interaction. You are a good mama, you took your son out when needed, you did your best. I'm a mom too and I've learned that even my best isn't always good enough for some people. We can't please everyone. Write a pretend letter to that couple, nicely giving them a piece of your mind, then tear it up into little shreds, then move on. Thanks to your husband to his service to our country and your sacrifice as well!!!
Tina Eddy Mack December 31, 2013 at 02:50 PM
I'm a firm believer in removing children from the event until they can be calm for the situation they are in. It may be dinner out or a movie. I also believe that when we go to a movie theater we all know there will be other people there with us and we cannot control them all. If we cannot be tolerant of the people around us who are dealing with their own unique situations, perhaps we are the ones who should be watching Netflix. Good for you for stepping out of the theater, it is really frustrating when parents don't give others that courtesy. Happy New Year and thank you for your sacrifice and for your husbands sacrifice and dedication. I'm sure he would have preferred to be at the movie with you. Let it roll off your back dear - that couple is not worth your anxiety. Most of us appreciate your predicament.
Tom Grant December 31, 2013 at 05:40 PM
Don't worry about it. Don't give the slugs the power to hurt you. Love your kids - you win.
Sue B December 31, 2013 at 06:52 PM
One-year olds do not have the cognitive ability nor the vocabulary to understand a movie, and unless it is naptime they cannot sit still that long. It is a waste of time and money to take them to one. They would be happier with a trip to the library, Central Park, Look Out Ridge, or a frozen yogurt shop. Places where children can move around, be noisy and not disturb adults trying to have a night out.
Simon D January 01, 2014 at 08:32 AM
I see you have conveniently left out the name of the movie you attended. If you were seeing a children's movie, the expectation of quiet behavior is low. If you were seeing a movie that is either inappropriate for young children, or that is not meant to entertain children, and your child is ruining others' experience, then they certainly have a valid complaint. No one expects to listen to noisy children in a rated "R" movie, nor during a drama or any type of movie where children would not be stimulated by the onscreen action. So were you at a children's movie, or did you and your brother subject your one year old to something else? I'm betting on the latter... and that means you deserved to be called irresponsible.
Tank Murdoch January 01, 2014 at 10:33 AM
Just consider it lesson learned
mary jensen January 01, 2014 at 02:29 PM
While I understand this mom, if the child has been cooped up due to the cold weather, do you think sitting quietly in a movie was the right choice? Maybe a trip to a mall or indoor park so child could run off some of his energy would have been a better choice. I bet the others were upset with the in/out of this mom with her child. It is a distraction no matter how you look at it.
Cindelu Crosby January 01, 2014 at 06:18 PM
Unless it was a children's movie your child should have been left with a caregiver. If I pay good money to see an adult movie I want to enjoy it and not be distracted. Your getting up and down must have been distracting as well as your child's behavior. I really don't see how you could enjoy the movie either. You probably deserve some time out on your own anyway.
yomammy January 02, 2014 at 07:27 AM
Two sides is probably right here... Like the idiots who just want to sent a dozen texts "real quick" in a dark theater. One more reason for the 132" projection system in the basement. Its cheaper for me to BUY the movie a couple months later than to go to a stupid theater, and pay ten bucks for a 10 cent bag of popcorn.
Lisa January 03, 2014 at 08:32 AM
Movies are not cheap. One expects silence in a movie theater and any interruption is intolerable. I suspect that your excited child made noise and perhaps even left his seat. You should have hired a sitter if you wanted to go out. Put yourself in the place of the complaining couple. Perhaps they have kids at home that they are trying to have some time away from and they don't want the noise ruining their evening. Did you ever think of their situation?


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